Now Is the Time: Legalize Gay Adoption

On August 10, 2004, my twin sister and I sat quietly outside an obscure courtroom in Moscow, Russia, listening to our iPods and patiently waiting on our parents. We were on the uppermost floor of an old government building, seated on a small wooden bench surrounded by gray, tiled walls. Though we did not fully understand what was going on, we knew why we were there. Before that day, we were not complete — that is, we were not the family God intended us to be. We were four meant to be six. The crack of the gavel changed that. Two beautiful little girls entered our lives and we became six meant to be six.

Adoption is beautiful. In its most basic form, it is the legal union of a family and a child. In its fullest form, it is something to be celebrated and encouraged, an act of pure love undertaken only by those who truly care for the people joining their family.

In many ways, adoption is a building block of society, giving young people who would otherwise be thrown into the streets the love they need to develop into kind, compassionate adults, the likes of whom we so desperately need. Thus, adoption plays a key role in societal progress, nurturing the future by ensuring every child has the chance to live in a stable, loving home. For this reason, I  support legalizing same-sex adoption.

Every child, regardless of who they are, deserves to find a family. We fail them by unilaterally closing hundreds of thousands of doors in their faces before the process even begins. I firmly believe that a family, even if it doesn’t fit the conservative ideal (one mother, one father, and two biological children), can be perfect. The “traditional” family, concretely defined by society for so many years, no longer exists. Rather, it has taken on new forms, all of which are equally important to the development of future generations.

With this in mind, I am deeply saddened by the positions the Catholic Church and Republican Party have taken on the issue. Both would rather a child remain devoid of family than join one they do not approve of. Their argumentative base — that having homosexual parents negatively affects development — has been disproved over and over again, yet they refuse to change. To be clear, I am devoutly Catholic and consider myself a loyal son of the Church, but on this point, we disagree. I simply cannot believe Jesus would condemn children to a life without family if other options remained on the table.

This belief has done much to inform my opinion concerning same-sex adoption. It may not be “ideal,” but it is far better than the alternative: thousands of children barred from experiencing the love and kinship they deserve. God created the family. It is a beautiful thing and I truly believe the more families we have, the better off we will be, even if those families do not fit a traditional mold.

In the end, the religious right has a choice: stick with the status quo or do what is right. I hope they do what is right. Everyone deserves a family. Regardless of whether or not I “approve” of that family’s structure, I refuse to stand between a child and his parents.

Adoption changed my life: my parents, twin sister, and I, all biologically related, welcomed two wonderful human beings into our lives. I love those girls more than anything else in the world. That is why, despite my deep Catholic faith and loyalty to the Republican Party, I must support the legalization of same-sex adoption. Having experienced firsthand the beauty of adoption, I cannot bar more children from loving homes. Every child deserves a family; every child deserves parents; every child deserves to be loved.